Women complain all the time that men don’t commit, or don’t want to commit, or are afraid of committing
The truth is, that this fear of commitment stems only partly from guys’ legendary fear of losing “freedom.” It also stems from something far deeper…
Namely — a lack of grounding in WHY he has pursued her in the first place.
If a man pursues a relationship with a woman for selfish reasons, then when she pulls away and the “relationship” becomes more trouble than pleasure, naturally he will head on to something that is less trouble.
But if a man chooses a woman in order to serve her, to be a steadfast catalyst of her blooming into greater offering and a fuller expression of her love, or as David words it here, “to open her heart to God” — his response will be very different…
As he says…
“If you have chosen a woman in order to open her heart to God, and she’s running, and you know you can open her heart to God, then you owe it to her to keep her with you so you can open her heart to God. Why would you let someone be less than they can be if you love them?”
– From “The Love That Washes Through Patterns,” a talk by David Deida
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How great is your offering in this world?
Not just in your work or with your family… but sexually?
In this brief clip from David’s Program, “Relaxing to Mutual Surrender in Sexual Love,” he asks you that very question…
Listen here:Your Sexual Gift
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Spiritual practice is not something saved for Sunday mornings. It is something lived in every moment, with consciousness. Even in the simplest activities…
“You are either allowing your life to be lived open as love, or you are settling for less. You are either disciplining your body to open as love’s art, or you are encasing your heart in shells of habit. For instance, sheer habit determines the tone of voice you would use to ask your man, ‘Would you like some tea?’”
-From “Dear Lover,” a book by David Deida
… and men like blowtorches.
Men and women heat up sexually at different speeds (you might have noticed.) Here is a recent recording of David offering some insight…
How Women Are Like Crock Pots
Remember: it’s not only what you do, it’s how you do it.
With clench or with openness, with stress or with relaxation…
“To the extent that you are closed, you give stress to the world. Your clench ripples outward, resonating others into closure. Even when you try to help others, your clench communicates itself along with your efforts. People may benefit from your actions, but in the process they are also rippled by your clench.”
- From “Blue Truth,” a book by David Deida
Many readers of David’s work are startled by the burning clarity of his statements — especially when its something you don’t want to hear. For example…
“Any improvements you make in your life are temporary. So you’re screwed if you actually think that what life is about is improving your life, because you’re automatically deprived of that. Absolutely and automatically you lose.”
-From “Spirituality Beyond Self Improvement,” a talk by David Deida
Or…
“No matter how much money or love you have made, one day your legs will become cold and numb, your heart will stop, your breath will cease, and all will disappear. In some now-moment as real as this present one, your life will end. Are you ready for your death? Are you ready for the death of your children, your parents, and your friends?”
From “Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex
,” a book by David Deida
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People talk about the human heart. They talk about feeling the heart of others. What about feeling your own heart, and offering its power, its energy, its love to the world…
From Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex:
“You are alive, for now. Feel your heart beating in your chest. Soften your belly and relax your jaw. Feel your heart beating deep in your body, and feel your heart’s rhythm radiating outward, pulsing in your hands and feet and neck. Feeling your heartbeat, relax open as if offering your heartbeat to the world.”
- From “Blue Truth,” a book by David Deida
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